Four Questions to Ask Other Couples Who Are Going Through Fertility Treatments
You won’t hear those kinds of comments from other couples who are going through fertility treatments. To get the peace of mind and support you need, consider speaking with another couple who struggled to get pregnant and asking them some questions.
Questions to Ask
How do you cope with the emotional ups and downs of fertility treatments?
One thing is certain about fertility issues: So much uncertainty surrounds the causes.
“One-fourth of couples have idiopathic infertility, where it’s not a clear-cut male issue or a clear-cut female issue”.
But even when the underlying cause can be identified, the process of going through fertility treatments can be its own emotional rollercoaster.
“There are a ton of emotions. Sometimes in the course of a clinic visit, we’ll see emotions ranging from anger, to depression, to fear, to guilt, to a sense of failure”.
Talking to other couples about how they deal with these intense feelings can help you and your partner figure out coping strategies of your own.
What did you tell your family and friends about fertility treatments?
“I think the biggest sources of support for a lot of our patients are their spouses or partners”.
However, he adds that, “We need to recognize that infertility is like any other medical condition. It has physical manifestations that affect people and also tremendous emotional manifestations. We need to be more comfortable with this as a society.”
But telling family and friends about fertility struggles can be a challenge. Talking to another couple in a similar situation can help you figure out:
- How much information you want to share
- How to explain what is going on
- How the treatment process is affecting you emotionally
- What kind of support you need from loved ones
These are all important issues to consider before discussing fertility issues with people who may not understand what you’re going through, says the National Infertility Association.
What side effects can I expect from fertility treatments?
The American Pregnancy Association explains that women undergoing follicle stimulating hormone injections in preparation for in vitro fertilization may experience a number of physical side effects, including:
- Breast tenderness
- Mood swings
- Abdominal pain
You should always talk to your doctor about any side effects you may experience from fertility medications or procedures.
It can also help to talk to someone undergoing similar treatments. She may have creative suggestions for coping with these symptoms—such as taking a warm bath or practicing meditation.
When is the right time to consider other options for starting a family?
The answer to this question will vary widely from couple to couple. Age plays a role, as does a couple’s financial situation.
Other options for starting a family may include surrogacy, donor eggs or sperm, or adoption. Which one is right for you as a couple depends a lot on your specific circumstances.
“Everyone has a different timeline with regard to their future family planning”.
But hearing from other people who are going through a similar situation can help you and your partner come up with an “enough is enough” point that is right for you.